Relationships work when both people get their needs met. These three words make that happen. I saw the email as soon as my coaching call finished. My client had emailed me twenty minutes before our session, saying he was ill and could we reschedule? I hadn’t seen his email, and in our “Hi, how are…
In a recent post, I acknowledged three women who influenced and inspired me: Mary Tyler Moore, Gloria Steinem and Melody Beattie. Here I celebrate two more who shaped how I approach my world. In my family, anger was a subject only to be glanced at from the corner of our eyes. My father would…
Divorce brings new realities flooding in from all sides. Some of them we won’t want to look at. We are often urged to accept reality. Sounds obvious and reasonable, doesn’t it! Too bad it’s so hard to do. When I struggle to accept something, it’s because I want my world to be one way, and…
I cannot call fear a friend. Fear is a companion whose influence has only become clear to me in the last 10 years. It visits me regularly, invisible yet powerful. I have taped a sign right below my computer screen: “LET GO OF FEAR”. I seldom notice it, but every now and then it grabs…
Your marriage is ending, and you are a parent. In the midst of upheaval and strong feelings, you have to make complex and critically important choices. Where to live? How to keep finances manageable? If and how to use lawyers? How to divide parenting time and responsibilities? No matter how frantic or devastated you feel,…
I have never met Oriah Mountain Dreamer, but she set me on the path to write about co-parenting after divorce. She inspired me with her books: ‘The Invitation”, “The Dance” and others. She writes tender, vulnerable thoughts full of what is possible. It was three pages in “The Dance” that grabbed me years ago, where…
Welcome. Have you heard the expression, “Bloom where you’re planted?” It means being able to flourish when we find ourselves in a place we didn’t choose. Co- parenting after divorce is often a spot we have stumbled into reluctantly. Because who sets out to marry and get divorced with children? I can’t say my early…